the latest update on my friend Ellen's fiance Jeff for those of you who have been asking - please pray if you pray and if you don't please at least think good thoughts for them:

I finally had the meeting with the ethics guy and we have convinced his dad to agree with myself and his mom that Jeff deserves better then this. His quality of life is not good at all and he shows no signs of getting any better. The doctors all agree that his prognosis is pretty bad and that any improvements he does make will be minimal so, we have all agrred to remove his heart meds and let nature take its course.

This is the hardest thing I have ever had to do and I cry a lot but I know that this is the one thing that I can actually do for him...it is the ONLY thing I can do for him and it is what he wanted. That he expressed prior to this incident the fact that he never wanted to be this way made everything a lot easier then it would have been otherwise so my advice to all of you is to write it down somewhere and give it to your family members because this could have happened to anyone...the ethics guy said he sees it every day and it is super hard on the families who are left behind...it is much harder when they have different opinions on what should be done...so...like I said...write it down and make sure people know what your choices are...I am sure that had Jeff not told someone other then just me...his dad would have fought me every inch of the way...he was just in denial and hoping for the best but it clouded his judgement for a while...you know?!

Anyways...to make a long story short...I am guessing that I will be hosting a funeral at some point within the next two weeks, but that is hard to call because it still all comes down to Jeff and his body's reactions to things so...I will let you all know if anything should happen...

from my perspective...this is such a hard thing for anyone to deal with or go through my heart breaks for her and the family so please remember them